I met Dave at Landmark Education where
he led a workshop for people in a leadership program from 1997 – 2000.
In the
workshop, Dave taught me how to see the first impression I was making on people, and in my case, how to change it. We both laughed when he told me, but I will be reported if the words are printed here.
Although we now live in different states, we have always found our way back and forth to each other throughout our relationship. We have remained close friends and can pickup
right where we left off.
Dave’s
mission in life is to inspire self-expression as an access to a world where
everyone belongs.
His other
purpose is to get attention.
Dave
wears several hats.
He is:
· a Barista at Starbucks.
· a singer who released his 1st
album last year, Living in the Land of Yes.
· an established relationship coach
with clients from New York to Japan.
· a student of transformation.
· great at connecting people who have
common interests.
· thankful to God for creating
Facebook,
otherwise he would never know anyone’s
birthday besides his own.
· an occasional jerk
otherwise he would never know anyone’s
birthday besides his own.
· an occasional jerk
Dave is, according to him, a
typical Aquarian male. His interests run the gamut from 60’s soul, to
pro-wrestling, to transformational education, to watching NCIS.
He
believes, that at the most basic level,
Integrity + Gratitude = Miracles
Dave’s
own words:
“In the
last several years I have altered my relationship to spirituality and my body.
In other words, I am a former atheist who prays every morning and a former 334
pound man who now works out 3-4 times a week and weighs approximately 90 pounds
less."
I have
amazing people in my life. I am passionate about relationships, and passionate
about men and women knowing and celebrating their differences.
As a
result of my working at Starbucks, I have had the opportunity to connect with
individuals who are “well known”, and who have shown themselves to be some of
the most open, giving, and humane people I’ve met.
In terms of my own relationship status, I’m a King looking for his Queen.”
Over the
last five years, I have had the honor of being on a number of "Men's Panels”, as part of some courses facilitated by PAX.
There is
a moment at the end of the course, where each man is offered a "megaphone
moment" to say something to all the women of the world.
Here's a
few thoughts I'd like to offer to women:
· Because you want to sleep with a
man, does not mean he's a good man. It just means sexual chemistry is present.
· You will continue to be disappointed
unless you pay attention to this.
· Sleeping with a man very early on does
not create intimacy. It creates drama
and a false sense of relationship.
· This will ultimately piss you off
and reinforce your past conversations about trust.
· If you don't have any women friends
whose lives are working- get some new friends ASAP.
· Looking for a man who is the
opposite of your ex-is small, petty, and limited, not to mention a guarantee of
failure.
· Want to find a man with an amazing
heart? Look for a man who has a commitment to being of service. In other words,
go volunteer for something you care about.
· Ask people you see every day, who
you have never talked to, something about themselves.
· Opening up your heart in one area
will open it in others as well....
I accepted this invitation from Kimberly
for two reasons.
1.My commitment to make a difference in the world.
2.I like attention.
This blog satisfies both needs.
Dave Rudbarg
Dave
Rudbarg
www.understandmen.com/http://www.livinginthelandofyes.com/
